This Saturday I was the mother of the bride. What a wonderful occasion! It was another reminder, if I should need it, of just how happiness spreads. And then today I received the workbook for a masterclass I am part of tonight sent by my coach, trainer and friend, John Overdurf. There is a large section on how important it is for us to make the most of positive experiences. “Just having positive experiences is not enough. Our brains are hard-wired to register and remember “negative experience” more readily, so it’s important to actively engage our brain to really weave them into the fabric of memory.”
It highlights how vital it is to appreciate and acknowledge all the good things that happen in a day (as opposed to focussing on the negative) and to reflect on the good things for longer each time. Do it many times a day and let the good feelings sink in deeply and let them spread throughout your body.
Now, it is not every day that your daughter will get married but every day you will be surprised how many good things happen when you start to pay attention to them. A smile, a cheerful word, a kind deed, an acknowledgement. Each one can be savoured.
Current research in neuro-plasticity shows us that the more we create these positive neural pathways in our brain the stronger they become and the easier and quidker we find it to have such experiences. So give your brain a workout by reflect more and more on the good things and then pass that on to others.